The Heart Of Her Husband Trusts Her

Proverbs 31 Woman“The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” {Proverbs 31:11-12}

Today is the second installment of my study of “The Proverbs 31 Woman” (read last week’s post here if you missed it).

I love the beauty of the picture of the heart of the husband trusting his wife. It’s so much deeper than just “he trusts her.” His heart trusts her. It is a deep, almost ingrained trust, something that is not gained lightly.

I have to admit my heart jumped a little bit when I read these verses. I kind of didn’t want to ask myself whether this was true of my relationship with my husband. I know I am trustworthy, but have I proven to my husband that I am a safe place for his heart, that he can entrust his life, his world, into my hands? Does he run to me when he is in need of security, when his heart is troubled? Have I cultivated that kind of trust in our relationship?

I think this question ties directly to the next verse, which says that she does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life. In order for my husband’s heart to trust me, he must know that I intend only good for him, for the rest of our lives. There should be no question in his mind that I will ever intend to harm him. 

Everything I do should communicate to him that my intentions are always for his good. Yes, we will fight, we will go through ups and downs, I will be grumpy and mean and selfish, but my main goal as a wife is to do him good, and never to harm him.

The rest of the verses in Proverbs 31 hash out how to gain this trust from my husband. How will my husband know he can trust me? How will he know I will do good to him? By my actions. In my day-to-day activities, the way I work, the way I run our house, the way I raise our children, I am showing my husband that his heart can trust me. I am saying to him, “I am a safe place. Our home is a safe place.”

Read the full text of Proverbs 31 here.  



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